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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/GFLicenseThrowaway on 2023-10-02 05:13:22.

My (28m) GF (26f) is always late. Always. No matter if it’s 5 mins up the road or catching a plane.

Before we get into it, no she isn’t on the autism spectrum, she doesn’t have ADHD or time blindness.

She just DAWDLES. ALL. THE TIME.

She snoozes her alarm at least three times every morning, then lays there going through her social media.

Eventually she gets up and takes a long ass shower, dresses (Which takes her forever, and she usually sits wrapped in a towel on her phone), then lingers over her coffee. 9 times out of 10 she’s running late for work, and ends up speeding to make it on time.

Naturally, she’s gotten a number of speeding tickets. I’ve tried to help her - eg putting her phone where she can’t reach it from bed so she has to get up to snooze it, but she literally just grabs it and goes back to bed.

You try to get her to move her ass and she just digs in her heels and takes even longer. Her response to people calling out her lateness is “better late than dead on time”.

Anyway, again, she was running even later than normal for work, and really had to speed to make it. A week goes by and sure enough, massive speeding fine in the mail.

She now has to hand in her drivers license because she’s got so many demerit points, she’ll be without one for 6 months.

Instead of just dealing with it, she TELLS me “I’ll need you to cop this one and say you were driving so I don’t lose my license” and of course, I refused, telling her she needs to live with the consequences of her actions and maybe she should stop speeding, and wake up earlier.

This argument went on for a few days until she finally conceded, then proceeds to tell me “well, you’ll have to drive me to and from work until I get my license back”, and I tell her I won’t be doing that - her work is literally in another direction than my work is from home, and doing so would add another two hours of driving per day. She says it shouldn’t matter as my work has flexible hours, but I stood my ground and refused, and said she can take public transport - there’s literally a bus stop 2 mins walk from our house and the bus stops maybe 5 mins walk from her work, and it’s quite regular,

She says she hates public transport and refuses to ride it, so I said then it’s Uber for her, or organise a car pool, but bottom line, it’s not my responsibility.

She called me an AH and is giving me the silent treatment, said a decent boyfriend would go to those lengths for her and that it’s only 6 months.

So, am I AH for not “saving her license” and refusing to drive her to and from work for 6 months?

TL,DR: Gf is always running late, speeds to work, gets caught, loses license, expects me to cop the blame so she can keep her license, I Refuse, she then expects me to drive her to and from work but it’s literally out of my way, says I’m the AH.

EDIT: We live in Brisbane, Australia for those wondering