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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/mothmanr6 on 2023-10-02 16:48:39.

Because her husband noticed my nipples.

This happened last Friday. Apparently my brother in law made a joke to my sister about me not wearing a padded bra. He makes jokes about everything and I don’t think he expected her to say anything…

Anyways when I saw her, she said “geez, mothmanr6, are you cold? Wear a padded bra.” My brother in law happened to come into the room at that time and I think he felt bad and joked that “he has the same problem”.

Later on, I brought it up to my sister and she told me that men notice these kinds of things so I should do something about it.

I’m still upset after several days. It’s taken me a majority of my 20s to be happy with how my nipples look. They are always on alert and at one point I’ve considered plastic surgery to get them to be less noticeable as I was and sometimes am, especially now, ashamed that they are noticeable thru most shirts and tops. I’ve gotten so tired of trying to find thick, expensive, and often uncomfortable bras to cover them up so I’ve resorted to bralettes and not giving a fuck but now I feel like I’ve been belittled back into being ashamed of my prominent nipples.

If my husband commented on another women’s nipples, I’d ask him why he was looking at her boobs.

Now I don’t feel comfortable around my sister…I feel judged and criticized. I know she would say I’m being too sensitive and dramatic but I feel like if I were to get SAed, she’d ask me what I was wearing.

Has anyone else had experiences like this?