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The original was posted on /r/sex by /u/Due-Fox-1087 on 2023-10-02 12:47:40.

Throw away account. We’ve been in a relationship for over 4 years, our relationship is fine, and our sex is fine, I’m just not in the mood as often as he is.

He wants oral sex a lot, and I almost always do it, and I’ll even put porn on for him while I do it to try to make it more fun etc, I want him to be happy. I initiate also, but these days with how often he initiates, I don’t get the opportunity as much.

However I’m rarely horny, I’d rather cuddle and watch a movie. But almost every movie we try to watch leads to him pushing my head down for a BJ again and I end up missing a good chunk of it.

I’m tired of being covered in saliva and tasting his fluids, it’s gross, and it’s usually after I’ve already bathed that he initiates this and my hair and skincare get messed up. I’m tired of hurting the back of my mouth and rubbing my lips raw and gagging. Even when I have wisdom tooth pain or allergies he still wants me to do it. He makes me do it before I leave the house too, or before he goes to work then I have to rush to fix his breakfast and lunch and if it’s a little undercooked because I had literally 5 minutes he gets mad, and blames me for not making him cum faster. I used to love his penis but this is getting old.

He doesn’t put nearly as much effort into pleasuring me as I do for him, so I’m starting to get resentful too, I feel better masturbating alone most days.

I’ve gotten him two fleshlights, which he hates (“they’re too cold/loose”, even though I bought a warmer and one was an expensive sucking fleshlight). I offer handjobs instead and he gets snarky and turns them down (“I can give myself a handjob better than you can”). I’ve asked if we can just masturbate to porn together but he thinks that’s weird. Sometimes I’ll switch to PIV riding him to finish the job, but he whines that I’m “trying to get it over with faster” (is it my job to act like a 24/7 sex doll? 'cause that’s what it feels like). Oh, I also told him we can open our relationship on his side if he wants more sex, but he said he only wants it with me. I can’t get a break.

He has a fragile ego so I’m not sure how to ask him to quit asking for blowjobs, he’d probably think I’m being a bitch. Usually when I communicate straightforwardly he gets an attitude and says “fine, we’re never doing it again” and then we go back to normal the next day as if nothing was resolved 🤷‍♀️ please give me advice!

Edit: thanks for the comments! I’m going to stop replying for a little while ❤️