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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/TheLandofPears on 2023-10-02 17:27:28.

My first time making a post like this. I will try to keep it brief, but descriptive. My husband (26m) and I (26f) recently bought a house. It’s a 4 bedroom, 3 bath. It’s a large house and the bedrooms are decently sized. We have 3 kids so each of our kids gets a room. Daughter is 8, oldest son is 6, youngest is 4. They all share the upstairs bathroom. My husband and I have the master bedroom and bathroom. My brother and his wife, along with their 1 year old son, are visiting for Thanksgiving for 2 weeks. We told them we would give them our daughters room as it’s the largest and has a queen sized bed. Our daughter will just sleep in one of our sons’ rooms. We were planning on making it look really nice in there for them. Giving them new sheets and bedding, making sure that all of my daughters things are put away, etc.

Anyway, my mother says that my husband and I are being extremely rude and inconsiderate for not giving them our master bedroom and bathroom. She said it’s just not right that they will have to share the upstairs bathroom with our kids while they’re here. I honestly did not think we were being inconsiderate at all. My brother was very happy when I told him they could stay with us, because they wouldn’t have to pay for a hotel/Airbnb. He didn’t seem at all like he minded they would be in our daughters room.

AITA??

Edit to add a bit more background: My parents and my brother and his family both live across the country. My sister and her husband, along with my family, live within 30 minutes from each other. We decided that we are having Thanksgiving here. So my sister is having my parents stay with her. To put it nicely, my sister is a suck up. Always has been with my mom. So she offered for my parents to stay in their master bedroom and my sister and her husband will stay in their other bedroom.

I feel like that bit of information might be pertinent to this. Just because I think my mom is basically implying that my husband and I are not being as accommodating as my sister is towards them.

2nd edit: My daughter and I talked and she told me she is fine giving up her room for the 2 weeks. She is so excited to see them and she said it’s not a big deal to her. My daughter is 8, oldest son is 6 and youngest is 4. Oldest son has a twin bed in his room, youngest has a bunk bed in his room from when the boys shared a room in our old house. I am giving my brother & SIL our daughters room since it’s largest and has a queen bed. I am probably going to have my two sons just sleep together with the bunk bed. And then put my daughter in the room with the twin bed. So she at least has her own space and privacy.

Lastly, yes 2 weeks is a long time lol. But my brother and I are very close and we only get to see his family about once a year. It’s a sacrifice and of course it can be stressful. But my whole family is so excited for them to be with us.