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The original was posted on /r/sugarlifestyleforum by /u/solitaryreaperette on 2023-10-02 14:42:58.

What sets a standout SD apart, making them truly special? (Inspired by the previous post in the same vein)

While M&G discussions are common in this sub, I want to share insights gleaned over the past three years that elevate someone from being great to truly outstanding. Note that some of these are not necessary— but it sure did help with final selections!

1. Be there ten minutes early with a small gift that vanilla partners usually bring (like flowers if you’d like).
2. Leave no room for doubt leading up to the date that you would be there and are ravenously interested.
3. Don’t expect a gift from your SB. Especially if you don’t intend to reciprocate.
4. Have the ability to talk about something other than yourself, and don’t treat my interests as lesser. So many SDs have been stuck in an echo chamber and struggle to sustain a proper conversation for long. Nothing wrong with being a little socially challenged, but trying to assert your intellectual dominance will be a pyrrhic victory.
5. Dress nice, but comfortable. Best M&G I’ve ever had was at a non-jacket requiring Michelin and dude was in a casual wool crew neck shirt and slacks. Worst was constantly reminding me how dreadfully expensive this custom suit he got made for our date was. On se calme s’il vous plaît.
6. Provide a gift related to our previous discussions. Usually happens about 80% of the time at the M&G. My favorite was this beautiful B&O headphone set. Of course I don’t expect one, but I am not in the bowl looking for vanilla (even vanilla brings flowers).
7. Gifting right after a M&G that went well. Don’t have sex with him if he isn’t willing to provide sugar before you are intimate. When that occurs and how often is up to you two. Sure, he may call you names to try and wiggle out of it but at the end of the day, I’m here for sugar dating: not being your fwb.
8. Not making me feel uncomfortable about worrying for my own safety. Be funny and crack a few well-attributed jokes about it. You risk losing a few racks, I risk losing my life. Be mindful of that. Do not make trafficking jokes.
9. Have the financials hammered out before the M&G even starts, so you can spend time getting to know each other as people. Nothing worse than seeing a POT’s face drop when he realizes that you are asking for something outside of his discretionary budget.
10. Remember that you are in the bowl to be pampered, and to pamper your SD. If he only considers his pleasure and time, leave it. Make sure both of you are having fun, and remember there are tons of lovely SDs out there who will treat you right.
11. Compliment my nice sneakers, not my rack.

EDIT: The OG post this was a response to has since been deleted, I did a line by line response to it. I did not pick the topics and that’s why it does not include “personality traits”. It was not present in the original. Also #11 is an inside joke to another post, please stop asking me why I wear sneakers to M&Gs.