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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/anon__________user on 2023-10-03 01:55:29.

I (22f) have a friend (23m) who is a a virgin due to what he describes as a religious choice. However, recently he expressed that he doesn’t want to wait until marriage anymore and asked me to help him with his account on tinder. I informed him that most people just use tinder for hook ups and that if he wants a meaningful connection he’s better off using hinge or bumble. He then brought up that I met my current partner from tinder and we are in a monogamous relationship. Seeing his point, I decided to help.

The first thing I saw on his profile was that he only had one photo. It was a close up selfie with patchy beard hair and no smile. He also wasn’t verified and had zero matches. When I asked why, he said he’s swiped left on every girl because no one fits his standards. However, when I asked what those standards are, he wasn’t able to give an answer. We decided to go through some girls together and I kid you not, he swiped left on some of the most gorgeous 10/10 women I’ve ever seen in my life.

I then suggested that maybe he’s being too picky and he should be open to dating different types of people. He said that he is going to be picky with who he loses his v-card to - a decision that I totally respect.

Here is where I may the TA…he kept going on and on about how it’s so hard to find a good girl these days and that no one on tinder meets his standards and he’s gonna die a virgin and blah blah blah.

This really started to annoy me because 1) being a virgin all those years was his decision, it’s not like he was forced. 2) swiping left on everyone was also his decision.

I can’t stand whining, especially when you have no to blame for your situation but yourself. So I responded by saying “with your standards you probably will never lose it”

Yes I acknowledge that people can change their minds, but beggars can’t be choosers and his attitude was annoying me. So AITA?