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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/let123Z on 2023-10-03 05:38:39.

I have two younger siblings: Jenny 17 and Leo 19. Jenny is pretty, talented, smart, and kind. Leo’s not a bad kid either but he’s not in college and he jokes around a lot.

Anyways, people (mom’s friends) will often compare the two and they keep putting Leo down. He used to brush them off and acted like the comments don’t bother him.

A few weeks ago, Leo was picking Jenny up from school and they got into an accident. It wasn’t Leo’s fault at all but Jenny got more hurt. She’s doing better now while Leo seems to be falling down a hole of self hatred. The accident brought out the worst in our parents and before we knew all the details they were all like “why couldn’t you be more careful” or “you know how precious she is.” They were extremely worried about him as well but he hasn’t been the same since they said that to him.

Mom and dad feel guilty now that it isn’t as tense anymore and keep making an effort to cheer him up but he isn’t giving anything back.

I would be more sympathetic towards them but mom’s still friends with the people who were/are saying terrible things about him. I’m not going to share the worst of it but they have implied that Jenny should’ve been the one who came out “fine”. My mom tells them off but the fact that she’s still willingly inviting them around Jenny and Leo pisses me off.

It was my birthday last week so I was visiting. For some reason, all my mom’s friends were there. Jenny was present and happy. But my brother refused to leave his room and was in bed when I checked on him at around 4pm.

After dinner I made a plate for my brother and was going to go sit with him for a little while but right as I was leaving mom’s friends were like “I can’t believe that kid, Jenny went through so much yet here she is helping out while he’s getting dinner served directly to him. He’s really going to be a loser for the rest of his life,” and they just wouldn’t stop talking about him like he was a waste of space or a mistake.

I told them to get out. They were surprised and my mom told me to calm down but I didn’t stop yelling at these women till all of them left. Some of them were still eating and I didn’t let them them collect their things either. My mom was extremely upset and left to go give them their things and apologize but apparently they’re not talking to her anymore.

They’re also making mean comments about her but I don’t care. She wants me to apologize but I refused and told her it wasn’t my problem. I do feel bad though because mom’s been crying and besides I could’ve gone about the whole thing in another less destructive way. So AITA? I was pretty disrespectful.

Sorry for the choppiness, the word count is kicking my ass.