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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Sad-River8515 on 2023-10-03 04:34:19.

I (20f) have 4 siblings on my father’s side. My father (77m) was married to Maria when he was younger and had 3 children with her. After a few years my father and his wife decided to get a divorce, it was amicable for the sake of the kids, but my father still loved his ex-wife very much. A while later, my father dated this other woman, Ana, and ended up having a son with her, Leo. Their relationship didn’t last long and my father chose to wait until Leo was a bit older to introduce him to his other kids. He did so when Leo was 6, but his kids didn’t take it very well.

My mother met my father a while later, they dated and she fell head over heels for him. He broke things off with her claiming to still love Maria and saying he wanted to try again with her. A few weeks later he called my mom saying he missed her and wanted to see her. I was the result. He didn’t believe I was his, he wanted a DNA test and said my mother was lying. I was born and they did the test, it came back positive. Even then he never tried to approach my mother nor meet me. My mother insisted that he should give me his last name and he kept refusing to do so, so she took him to court. It was a very bloody thing, he lied several times, said she tried to baby trap him even though he was the one to approach her, lied about how much he paid for child support for his other kids, turned down visitation rights, etc.

I never really missed having a dad, I have a great mother that always gave me love and affection. I asked about him and my mom was always very honest, saying that she contacted him and asked him to meet me, but he refused. I was a bit sad, but the thing that really hurt me was not knowing my siblings. I asked my mother if I could at least meet them and that’s how I found out that my father had never told them about me. My mother said that he and Maria got back together and he said that Maria didn’t want the kids to know.

When I turned 18 my mom said that she had found my siblings’ facebook accounts and that we could send them messages explaining the situation. I honestly don’t crave a relationship with my siblings anymore, so I chose not to. I explained to my mom that I want to wait until he dies and show up in style at his funeral, preferably wearing a black dress with heels, huge sunglasses and a hat. I feel like the people that admire him should know how he really is. Also, even if he doesn’t put me on his will, as one of his children, by law I have to appear at the hearing anyway.

Maybe I’m an asshole for wanting to do that to people that love him and are mourning him and I sort of feel bad about that, but I feel like his name should be dragged through mud for what he did and the only way to do that would be in a place where everyone in his life is gathered and they can’t manipulate the events through the grapevine of gossip. So AITA for wanting to expose my father at his funeral?