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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Jalden99 on 2023-10-03 09:24:26.

So I 22M living Denver with my girlfriend, 23F. we both bartend, she works downtown at a hotel and tonight she was telling me about how this band that was playing at red rocks were staying at the hotel. she texted me, that one of them was flirting with her, which I don’t really see as a big deal since it’s pretty common in our industry, however like an hour later, she wanted to grab drinks with them and I said I wasn’t comfortable and she got pretty defensive saying that I don’t trust her and that when I grab drinks with people, she didn’t have an issue but I feel like this is a different situation and I genuinely was uncomfortable, so I just don’t know if I’m the asshole.

Edit: definitely interesting responses, I ended up saying I was uncomfortable just cause I have no idea what a group of random guys might try and she came home after she closed, I feel like it was the right call. Honestly iI don’t have trust issues we go have drinks hang hang out with friends separately all the time and In two years it’s never been an issue, it felt like too sketchy of a situation tonight and I hate trying to control a situation but It wasn’t a risk I was comfortable with, at the end of the day she is her own person and could have gone out if she wanted but I’m really happy she didn’t